Welcome to Second Life Info Island, the information headquarters of Second Life. Here, you will find a variety of information sources, and (during certain hours) find live experts to assist you with research and locating information. This island hosts a number of buildings.
Here is the main Second Life Library. They are in the process of relocating the library, but there are a number of reference books still inside (mostly links to the Internet). There are also a number of events hosted here.
Here is the Second Life Medical Library, which has both medical information as well as links to chat with a live person if you have any questions. Check out these great resources! To come to the Second Life Info Island, Search for "Info Island" under Places. The SLURL is Info Island (108,194,33).
And BTW, did you notice that girl in the *CUTE* red dress? :) Its Thursday! And as usual, its Newbie Salsa night at New Citizen's Plaza (at 6pm Linden/PST). So this week, I decided to make a salsa dress so I can do my salsa styling properly! :)
OK, first, you need to know that I love salsa in Real Life. I used to go 2-3 times a week (its more under control now :P)! Theres nothing better than spinning around the dance floor to forget all your problems. So Im a bit of a salsaholic :)
But there are several rules regarding salsa dresses. First it needs to be LOUD (red is the most common color). Second, it has to be sexy (its probably the guys who made up that rule :P). It has to be very thin, because believe me, you will sweat...a lot (the most popular drink at salsa clubs is water!) And lastly, this shouldnt be a dress you wear around the streets! This is for dancing! :)
So I decided to make a red salsa dress with a skirt that starts high on one side and slopes down to the other. Irregular skirt shapes is a telltale sign of a real salsa dress! :)
The top part of the dress was pretty straightforward: It is basically a red version of the Little Black Dress with a different neckline. The dress is smooth and seamless all the way to the skirt!
I had to figure out a way to make the sloping skirt in SL. I tried a number of different things today, including a partly transparent texture that has a slope in it. The problem is that when applied to flexi prims that intersect, textures containing transparency cause the flexi prims to act funny. It looks like the flexi prims are jumping back and forth. Thats why I use only opaque textures in my skirts. So I cant do it the easy way with textures. :(
That meant creating a skirt with the proper shape using the Necklace Generator and arranging the panels by hand! *Yikes* But a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do! And thats what I did all afternoon, finishing barely in time to make it to the dance. :)
OK, picking up from yesterday, I was talking about meeting girls in Real Life. Today, I want to talk about meeting girls in Second Life.
From a woman's perspective, Second Life dating can be very different than Real Life. As for the long-term relationship issue, that may or may not be important, depending on whether the relationship spills over into Real Life. But strictly within SL itself, it may not matter as much if you get married and pregnant (yes, you can get married and pregnant in SL), and your mate leaves you. It costs only $25L to get a divorce (to have your partner's name removed from your Profile). And you can restore your old AV shape, put the baby back in Inventory, and pretend nothing happened.
Safety is also not as big an issue. Yes, an irate spouse can grief and harrass, but in the end, no permanent physical harm can come to your avatar. Even unarmed little ole me. :P I can prance through the nastiest combat sim, and the worst that could happen is that I die and get TP'ed back home.
In short, women do not have to worry about physical concerns in SL. However, there is the emotional side.
I think there are 2 general types of people/avatars in SL:
The first represents their true selves through their avatars (a "self-avatar"). Their avatars behave in a similar way as their RL selves, maybe more outgoing or relaxed. But they maintain the same basic value system. The RL person relates and feels the pains of the avatar.
The second considers SL a game, and the avatars are just meaningless pixels on a screen. Therefore, it doesnt matter what the avatar does, as long as it isnt spending RL money. In fact, it doesnt matter what the avatar has to do in order to MAKE RL money.
I belong in the first group. My avatar means a lot to me. Sometimes I think she is symbolically more important than my RL self (because she is my old happy carefree self). Therefore, I wont let harm come to her, even if it is only symbolic.
I know people in both groups. There is nothing wrong with either philosophy: they are both valid points of view. But interesting things happen when these groups get together socially, particularly for dating.
If 2 "self-avatars" get together, they probably behave like their RL selves. The interactions would happen as if occuring in RL, just in a more exotic locale.
If 2 "gamers" get together, all bets are off. Its furry meets dragon on Gor. Since they are pixels, whatever brings in the $L or maximizes entertainment goes. After all, its just a game, right? Fortunately, the parties understand one another. Their avatars get to practice pixel magic.
The problem occurs when a "self-avatar" meets a "gamer". The "self-avatar" like me try to be true to their RL self, which tends to be conservative by SL standards. So we are considered prudes, when in fact we are just being ourselves.
The "gamer" wants us to try the latest naughty attachments he/she purchased at the store. Now. Right here in the Sandbox. The "gamer" wants to know what the poseball labeled "him on top" does.
Ive been asked more than once to cyber or just sit on a suspicious poseball. I have always refused outright and been very firm, even though the guys tend to say, "Oh come one, its just pixels."
I may be wrong, but I have a feeling that most guys tend to be "gamers", while a significant number of women tend to be "self-avatars". Or maybe the guys asking me to cyber are being "self-avatars"...I can only hope not!
So guys, be aware that a large number of women (including me) are quite attached to their avatars. We have made significant emotional investments in our little pixel selves. When you abuse our avatars, you are abusing us emotionally. Believe me, we would feel it emotionally.
OK, with that rather lengthy background, let me get back on track. How does one meet girls in Second Life? Well, it depends on your intentions, of course.
If you are planning to see what cyber is like, or want to play out your wildest fantasies, and you need a partner right now, then I would really recommend that you visit an escort club. Unlike RL, there is no risk of disease or getting busted in SL. And as I understand it, it costs several hundred $L per hour, which works out to $1-$2 US dollars per hour. For that amount, you have someone who will cater to your needs, has a private room, has the proper equipment and scripts, and actually knows how to cyber properly and enjoy it. There are a large assortment of escort clubs, catering to probably just about every desire or fantasy one could dream up.
If you want to cyber but do not wish to spend the $L, then you will probably have to do a bit of charming at a dance club or one of the mature communities. I have only been to the dance clubs, and they are not much different than RL clubs. Guys stand around the dance floor chat with girls dancing or walking by. If you are smooth with the KB, you may get lucky. Dance clubs are pickup places in SL, so the girls who go expect to be hit on. So go ahead with your best "Hello Sexy". But just be aware that some girls go just to dance and chat (like me). So dont be too surprise if your invitation to cyber gets turned down.
Outside the clubs, I would not suggest wasting time on someone like me (or any number of "normal" AV's walking around) if you are looking for a quick cyber. For one thing, I couldnt cyber even if I wanted to...I dont have any equipment or scripts. I dont know what to do. And I really dont want to go through with it. After a lot of work on me, I can at best prove to be a really bad experience. If I had wanted to try cyber, I would have gone to the clubs and waited for a guy who knew what he was doing. I am sure thats the case with a lot of other girls.
But what about just meeting a girl as a friend, maybe romance, and who knows? I met almost all of the guys on my Friendship list as a result of doing some activity with them in SL. Most of them are role-playing friends. Some I know through repeated exposure at some places I frequent.
Much like RL, if you are looking for that special girl in SL, find some activity that interests you, and socialize with the people there. Whether it is gaming, arts, philosophy, music, taking classes, or sports, find something you like to do and socialize! Most SL couples I have met spend most of their time doing a shared activity in SL. And most SL groups have get-togethers and periodic parties. So sign up and start living your Second Life! You might just meet that special girl there as well.
According to my brother, Second Life is losely based on concepts from a book called "Snow Crash" about an interactive Internet. I havent read the book, but I passed this sign on Info Island. BTW, do you like my hair with the red tie? :)